Style as Self-Respect: Dressing with Intention as a Man

As a man in today’s society, it’s easy to get lost in the monotony of what passes for typical men’s fashion — Lululemon shorts and polos, basketball shorts and tees, Target-branded graphics and cargo shorts. It’s safe, it’s easy… but it’s not expressive.

Why is it that men aren’t encouraged to explore fashion as a form of identity?

To me, having a personal, recognizable style is more than self-expression — it’s self-respect. It shows the world that I care about how I carry myself. It tells people I woke up and thought about my day, how I want to feel, and how I want to show up.

Living with intention is one of the core principles of becoming a well-crafted man.

This doesn’t mean you need to throw on a designer outfit or a $5,000 suit every morning. If that’s your vibe, cool — but most of us (myself included) don’t want or can’t afford that. What matters is being thoughtful about your presentation and how it aligns with who you are.

Personal Style Is Personal Power

My style shifts depending on my mood and the season of life I’m in. Some days I’m leaning into rugged skater vibes. Other days, it’s a vintage workwear look, something with a little elegance, or a hint of streetwear and motorcycle grit. What ties it all together is how it makes me feel — like my best, most confident self.

Your style should empower you. Here's how to start crafting yours.

1. Know Your Build & Dress for It

As I’ve grown in life and in the gym, my style has had to evolve with my body. What looked good when I was skinny doesn’t always work now. Your clothing should complement your frame, not fight it.

For example:I have broader shoulders and thicker thighs, so a tapered or straight-cut pant works better than skinny jeans. I also go for cropped, boxy button-ups — they emphasize my shoulders without shortening my frame.

Tip: Take the time to learn what cuts, silhouettes, and materials suit your body best. You'll feel more confident immediately.

2. Shop Beyond the Norm

Don’t just stick to the basics at Target or mall brands. Explore stores that fit your budget and your vision.

Some of my go-to recommendations:

• UNIQLO & Cotton On — great for affordable, minimal basics like jeans, plain tees, and pants

• Thrift stores, vintage markets, flea markets — ideal for finding unique, character-rich pieces on a budget

Fashion doesn't have to be expensive — it just has to be intentional.

3. Invest in Staples (Not Trends)

Build your wardrobe around high-quality staples — “pieces” that can carry multiple outfits and seasons.

Some examples:

• A well-fitted pair of pants

• A versatile denim or chore jacket

• Solid neutral tees

• One or two statement overshirts or layering pieces

These items are worth investing in. Go for quality over quantity, especially when it comes to your most-used items.

4. Step Up Your Shoe Game

Sneakers are great — I love them too. But every man should have a few elevated options when the occasion calls for it.

Start with:

• One pair of black loafers

• One pair of brown loafers

Why loafers? They're clean, timeless, and versatile — easily dressed up or down.Steve Madden and Dr. Martens are solid, affordable places to start.

5. Accessorize Like You Mean It

Accessories elevate your look and express who you are — without needing to say a word.

Some easy go-to’s:

• A clean watch

• A couple of simple chain necklaces

• A cuff or ring with personality

You don’t have to spend a fortune — just avoid pieces that tarnish or fall apart easily. Prioritize quality. And don’t overlook secondhand stores — I’ve found some of my favorite pieces of jewelry in thrift shop women’s sections.

Final Thoughts

Style is about more than clothes — it’s about how you carry yourself and how you live.

When you dress with intention, you send a message: “I respect myself.”It’s a daily decision that reflects self-love, confidence, and care.

You don’t need to follow trends. You don’t need to impress anyone.You just need to ask: How do I want to show up today?Then dress like the man who means it.